Questions for Connection 2 of 2

Welcome to part two of two questions for connection. So again, you can pause this if you have not watched part one of two. These two fit into a sequence, so please go back and check that one out. But if you’ve already done part one, then you kind of know what to expect for part two. Again, these questions have been scientifically validated by psychological study to increase closeness and connection in people, and so we’re back with set two. I’ll show you now.

Once again, you know the drill. The idea here is to get with the same partner—same partners as last time—and you’re going to progress through these again for 15 minutes, alternating questions. That should be all. Again, once again, if you don’t have enough time, you can scale it down. But I will share these now.

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you’re living now? Why?

What does friendship mean to you?

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Try to share a total of five each.

How close and warm is your family?

Do you feel your childhood was happier than most?

Complete this sentence: I wish I had someone with whom I could share blank.

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner in this exercise, what would be important for them to know?

Tell your partner what you like about them. Be just honest with them and feel free to say things that you know. You maybe just met this person, or you don’t know them as well, but just share what you like about them.

Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret having not told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

If your house with everything you own caught fire and you know your loved ones and pets and everything were out, but you could only save one item, what would the item be and why?

Finally, share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect to you how you’ve been kind of feeling about the problem you’ve chosen. So you’re telling them about the problem, and not only are they giving advice, but they’re also telling you how you seem to be feeling about it.

You can pause this video and run that back, and I will come in here for an outro. So, just to debrief all that, right? I’ll put it out there. It’s kind of maybe weird, or some of those questions are pretty intimate. But again, this study—there’s a particular study that, you know, they essentially, researchers designed these questions to sort of cultivate, in a very condensed time period, a cascading feeling of intimacy and connection. And so again, there’s some research validation that shows that these often bring people closer together. Hence some of the specifics around the questions. Maybe some of them even felt a little out there. But I imagine you feeling a bit closer and more connected with this person. We highly recommend you take the same set of questions back and do this with friends, family, a partner, significant other. It can be really life-changing. So, hope you enjoyed this one, and I’ll see you next time.